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This such a beautiful, vulnerable piece. Thank you for writing it.

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just forwarded to the hospice office where i volunteer; they will deeply appreciate. i think i've mentioned Teepa Snow who's taught me so much about the deep and necessary respect our elders need and merit, especially in cases like Neil's. bless you B. love you.

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Thank you, E. It's all dignity and respect. I was appreciative that they asked me to step out while changing him. And before I did, I told them to please share what they were doing. Narrating as they go. I am learning. And meeting him where he is, and helping those around us to do the same.

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yes. yes. the narration is so helpful... exactly like with small kids. it's the same. give them respect.

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Thank you for this.💕

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Ohhhh sweet Barri. Your dad is so lucky to have you, and you’re so lucky he raised you to be there for him💙💙💙

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Being a caregiver to my father was the greatest honor of my life. I appreciate the way you advocate on behalf of your father, working to preserve his dignity and fill his world with the respect he deserves. What a beautiful gift you’re giving him.

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Barri, you have a way with words. This so beautifully paints a true picture of the struggles individuals with dementia go through in our medical world. Thank goodness there are individuals that do understand that your dad and others are still human beings deserving of respect and compassion. Prayers for his continued healing.🙏

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Men with dementia are not always cooperative! Your suggestions of how to are spot on and worth sharing and knowing. On good days my wife will joke with me too but she always likes clear direction, she wants to know what her day is going to consist of, often. Thank you for remembering Mr. Rogers.

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I think there is a great generalization about men. My Dad is laid back and gentle and easily directed. Meet each with dignity and knowledge of what memory loss can look like in hospital.

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